I’ll post my own answer below, but I’d love to hear your perspectives too!

1. Start with the Basic Information

Start with the basic details:

• Full name (including maiden name or nickname, if applicable)

• Age at the time of passing

• Date and place of death

• Hometown or significant locations they lived

Example:
“John Michael Smith, 78, of Springfield, passed away peacefully on May 5, 2024, at Green Valley Hospital.”

2. Include Key Life Details

Highlight important aspects of their life, such as:

• Birthdate and birthplace

• Education and career

• Military service (if applicable)

• Hobbies, passions, or community involvement

Example:
“Born on March 12, 1946, in Boston, John served in the U.S. Army before working as a teacher for over 30 years. He was an avid gardener and volunteered at the local animal shelter.”

3. Mention Family Members

Acknowledge immediate family, both surviving and predeceased:

• Spouse/partner

• Children and grandchildren

• Parents and siblings

Example:
“He is survived by his wife of 50 years, Mary; his children, David (Lisa) and Sarah (Mark); and four grandchildren. He was preceded in death by his parents, Robert and Helen Smith.”

4. Add Personal Touches

Share a memorable trait, quote, or anecdote to make the obituary unique:

• A favorite saying or philosophy

• A brief story that captures their personality

• Their impact on others

Example:
“John was known for his quick wit and love of storytelling. His famous homemade apple pie will be dearly missed at family gatherings.”

5. Include Funeral or Memorial Details

If services are public, provide:

• Date, time, and location of the service

• Burial information (if applicable)

• Any requests (e.g., donations in lieu of flowers)

Example:
“A memorial service will be held on May 10, 2024, at 2 p.m. at Springfield Community Church. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the American Heart Association.”

6. Keep the Tone Respectful and Honest

• Use a warm, respectful tone—formal but not overly stiff.

• Be truthful while focusing on positive memories.

• Avoid overly negative or controversial statements.

7. Proofread Before Submission

Check for:

• Spelling and grammar errors

• Accuracy of dates and names

• Clarity and flow

Writing an obituary can be emotional, but it’s a beautiful way to celebrate a life well-lived. Take your time, and don’t hesitate to ask family members for input.

Would you like help with a specific obituary? Feel free to share details, and the community can offer suggestions.

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This post is a general guide—customize as needed for your situation. Condolences to those who are grieving.